What do you fear more: being stuck, or getting out of the stuckness that you’ve become used to?
We often feel stuck because we’re resistant to change, to making hard decisions, to thinking we’re the cause of upset.
And sometimes we’d rather stay in the pain or discomfort we know, than launch forward into a different type of discomfort, or even joy!
Yesterday, I bumped into a client who I’ve been asking for a one-page, five-minutes-to-create document for over two weeks.
The purpose of the document is to make her job flow easier, and more enjoyable.
Her boss is a good guy.
He’s also smart and understands human behavior.
Now this is a client who shows up promptly for sessions, homework complete, and jumps in and does her work. Yet when I brought up this document, she said, Yeah, I’m just really forgetful.
My response: No, you’re resistant.
And when we’re resistant, we’re stuck in both fear of what might come and fear of letting go, aka relinquishing perceived control.
Together, we knocked off the document on our phones in a couple of minutes, at which point she said, Can I tell you the part I feel bad about? It’s that my favorite parts of my job are the fun things.
Let’s break this down.
She’s afraid to let her boss know that the parts she likes are the ones she enjoys most, and, guess what, she’s also really good at those things!
It seems simple when we look at it that way, because we all excel at things we enjoy more than things that we dread.
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Her resistance wasn’t about forgetting. It was about, What would life be like if I got to do the things that I really enjoy and that I’m good at, and didn’t have to do these other things that I have to talk myself into and often do twice, because I’m just not that good at them?
In other words, What if I got more of what I wanted and could be even happier?
What are some of the other ways we get stuck in resistance?
Stacks of mail, unopened, unpaid bills, messages that either are left unread or not responded to.
My inherited daughter once missed out on a Fulbright scholarship she really wanted because she never listened to her voicemails.
It was a hard lesson.
And that’s really what today’s message is. Life will present hard days and phases, let’s not create more of them.
Let’s begin this shift together. Take a look around the room you’re sitting in, or even the device you’re holding in your hand as you read this, and ask yourself, Where is there an energetic leak that I just keep putting off? Or maybe the thing you keep claiming to forget (just like my very smart client did) when in reality, there’s just a little resistance, or maybe a lot.
And do I really need to figure out what I’m afraid of, if it’s good or bad?
Nope, you don’t.
Instead, just start now. And start by moving through the easy clutter, physically, emotionally, energetically, and know that in doing so, you create more space to receive more of what you really want.
Begin now, and I promise that in 7 minutes you will have more energy than you do now.
Give it a whirl and send me a field report
Love + Magic,
Amber