A client called to discuss something he considered a moral issue. Early in the conversation, I asked, How do you personally define morality? He didn’t know—that became his first homework assignment.
A few minutes in, he paused and said, I’m really surprised. I didn’t expect you to judge me, but I did expect you to have a strong opinion on this.
Me: You wanted me to give you the answer?
Client: Maybe…
Nope.
I draw the line when it involves endangering children, or if I see someone about to slide under a moving train. Otherwise, my role is to help you discover what is true and aligned within you. It’s not my place to interfere with someone’s journey or to impose my personal opinions.
My role is to lead someone back to the truth of who they are, to assist with decluttering all the gunk collected along their life journey (partly from absorbing others’ opinions!) so they can see, feel, and live with clarity. It’s about returning to a state of sovereignty.
When we’re living in that space, we act with love. We can flow through life’s greatest challenges, knowing there will be obstacles, but not needing to make them harder in order to grow. We align with what’s truly important to us, not just the circumstances.
We talked through the challenge, the support, the possibilities, and I left him with ideas to get curious about.
True growth must be sovereign, that’s how it becomes permanent.
Otherwise, we just cycle in and out, up and down, stuck in the same patterns.
This morning, he called me, empowered and clear about his next steps, and what was truly best for him and everyone involved.
The issue was no longer about morality—what’s good or bad, right or wrong. It was no longer about how things would appear to others. Instead, it became about, This is who I want to be. This is who I am, and this is how I’m going to show up in this circumstance.
He then mentioned how someone else had a very strong opinion about how wrong the situation was and how much karma he would be racking up.
But here’s the thing: it wasn’t my place to point that out. There was no need. He got there on his own.
And because of this, he is empowered, expanded, and has gained self-trust.
He won’t need to repeat this pattern.
When we’re responsible for our own growth (with or without assistance) it sticks.
When we depend on others for our growth, we question it, and sometimes we call in new circumstances for a re-do.
The choice is yours.
And, yes, you already know.
Love + Magic,
Amber
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